5 Ways to Keep in Touch – The “Forever” Part of BFFs
Who is your best friend? Did a beloved face just pop into your head?
My grandma and her best friend Ruth went to high school together in South Dakota. I always admired that my grandma stayed in touch with her best friend even though they lived in different states for most of their lives.
My best friend Amy lives 2,200 miles away in upstate New York. That is much closer than the 4,900 miles away she lived while studying art in London, but much farther than the 1,500 feet away that she lived while we were in junior high.
Much to her parents’ disappointment and, I’m sure, sheer terror, Amy and I were inseparable throughout junior high until her family moved away and we had to go to different high schools. Yet, although we’ve hardly lived in the same zip code (let alone state) since then, I know I could call her any time and pick up right where we left off the last time we spoke.
Unfortunately the phone doesn’t always do justice to the everyday sharing that takes place when you’re lucky enough to have your BFF close by. How do you keep in touch with your best friend? Here are a few unique ideas I’ve heard that I’d like to try:
1) Movie club – Decide ahead of time on a movie that you’ll both watch, or send movies back and forth to each other. You could give each other random requests, like “send me something 80s” or “Katherine Hepburn” or “$5 bin” or something. If you’re bookworms, you could do the same thing with books.
2) Photo swapping – I heard of about two women who lived on opposite coasts – one in Portland, Oregon and the other in Portland, Maine. They struck up an online friendship and started a blog on which they each uploaded a photo every morning. Wouldn’t it be cool to swap everyday photos with your BFF? Instead of the usual social media drill: “Here’s what I’m eating” or “Look how cute my kids are,” you could share the flowers blooming outside, the shoes you just bought, or that guy at the restaurant who has the world’s most epic mullet.
3) Traveling journal – Do you remember writing, doodling all over and then elaborately folding notes that you’d pass to your friends at school? I heard an idea from at Pinner’s Conference about passing a journal back and forth. Wouldn’t that be fun to do with your best friend? Not a log of everything that happened while the journal was in your possession – just what you’re thinking about or feeling that day. Pass it back and forth until it’s full. Like that book about traveling pants without the pants.
Here are a few ideas I’ve tried with my family:
4) Goals/hobbies – After she finished high school, my younger sister moved across the country at the same time that I moved into an apartment without a roommate. It was the first time either of us lived alone. We both felt really lonely in our different situations. She came up with an idea to create a list of goals and new hobbies to try. When we talked or emailed, we reported to each other on how it was going. It was a great way to keep busy (rather than sit around feeling lonely) and to be accountable for goals we set.
5) Closed Facebook groups (if one BFF is not enough for you) – Social media in general is great for sharing news with your total network of friends, but a closed group is the perfect place for a photo or joke that only the other people in the group would appreciate. My private family page is the first thing I check whenever I look at Facebook.
What do you do to keep in touch with your best friend?