I say this to myself all the time. I say it to other people (especially my kids) a lot. And, I hear people say it every day. Someday.
What’s the last thing you said someday to?
“Someday I’ll lose a few more pounds.” That’s my most common one right now. The runner up is how someday I’d like to learn to use my new camera or see Pitch Perfect 3.
I told my kids that someday we’ll get stuff hung on the walls. I’ve been saying someday for at least three months on that one.
And, I hear a lot of people tell me how someday they’d like to work on, finish, learn about this or that. When I hear them say it, it’s easy to question them about why they haven’t worked on it yet. And, when will they?
Sounds like I need to do better at asking myself those questions.
Figuring Out How to Accomplish Your “Someday”
- Start with why you haven’t done it. At work, we call it getting to the why. Do you have the resources? What keeps you from working towards your goal? Is it something you really don’t want to do? Did you set the goal or did some one set it for you? Sometimes instead of starting with the goal, you need to get something else out of the way – the why.
- Get the barriers out of the way. If you’re trying to start a new habit or improve some behavior, think about what kept you from being successful in the past. For example: I want to be on time to work everyday. What keeps me from leaving on time? I push snooze, I take a long time choosing a shirt, the baby’s diaper bag isn’t packed, etc. So, I need to choose one to work on first.
- Start with a step. If you dive in the to the deep end you might make it a little while but eventually you’re not going to make it. Take a step towards your goal. I can get things ready at night that will help me in the morning when I inevitably will push snooze. Make a specific plan and a specific time to accomplish your step. If you’re vague and don’t think it all the way through, there’s no way to hold yourself accountable.
- Be accountable at each step. Because you’ve split your goal into steps, it’s easy to be accountable and check each box off as you progress. Use a checklist to physically mark things off, set reminder alarms, and/or get an accountability partner. At work, I visit with individuals at least once a week to see how they’re doing on their steps. And, at home, before I go into my room for the night, I put the car seat, diaper bag, and my purse all together and lay out clothes for me and the baby. Some days or weeks aren’t as smooth as others and I have to adjust my plan.
- Be flexible. Adjust your steps or plans as necessary to be realistic. I, realistically, can not plan on being out of bed in time to get me and baby out the door in the morning. That’s why I have the night time routine. Right now, with a new baby and cold weather, I’m probably not going to be active enough to lose weight so I changed my goal for the winter – I’m not going to gain weight. Set up a realistic plan but if you still don’t make the progress you’re hoping, be flexible and make adjustments. Don’t set yourself up for failure and be excited about your success!
- Celebrate success! All of it! Every step deserves some celebration. I’ve only been late to work one time in the last five weeks. That’s exciting! Maybe I don’t deserve an award but I like to tell my husband or even my supervisor how well I’ve improved. I still don’t know how to take great pictures with my new camera but I know how to download the ones I do get. And, I haven’t lost any more weight recently but I haven’t gone up either! Celebrate little things. Don’t hold yourself back waiting to be proud of yourself when you do something big. You do things worth celebrating every day!
What is your someday and what are you going to do about it?